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  • introduction
  • transactions

Relationships

last authored: Sept 2009, Dave LaPierre

 

Introduction

Social health is tightly linked with a person's identity in the context of community. We all need to have people who we trust and with whom we feel we belong.

We need to enhance human relationships.

We need to shift relationships on our quest to become fundamentally human.

Social health also affected by mental health.

We can have relationships with objects, ideas, or perceptions.

 

Interactions tend to be between us and someone else, though they can be self-self, self-tv, etc

 

aka strokes

We can have positive children responding to positive parents, or we can have negative parents evoking negative children.

  • roles
  • good milk
  • bad milk
  • interactions
  • games

We all play roles:

  • adult, child, parent
  • friend, family, partner
  • teacher, student, healer           more on roles

 

Family is one of the cornerstones of society.

 

The love we receive from our parents is tremendously important.

Trus is key too.

 

Good Milk

These meet our needs:

  • attention
  • love
  • honesty
  • faithfulness
  • direction

 

Bad Milk

Bad milk is anger and judgement, coming from a hurt person who plays games.

Interactions

These are the transactions from TA.

 

The goal is intimacy and unconditional love: God, self, lovers, family, friends

 

Respond from our roles:

  • parent child
  • adult adult
  • child child

some can be hurtful

to get out of a damaging role, get people to switch to a different role

Games

 

Games are

 

intimacy = into me you see